Non-violent communication. Second Part
In the next phase of Nonviolent Communication. Use positive language for requests. Surely if at any time someone makes a request for something in a negative way, no one will want to pay attention and the interlocutor will put up resistance. Sometimes we ask for what we have not asked for. Here is an example that describes the author of the Nonviolent Communication. Marshall B. Rosenberg in his book: "Frustrated that her husband spent too much time at work, a woman He recounted in a workshop the result he had obtained with the request he had made: I asked him not to work as hard and he was shot in the butt: three weeks later he told me that he had signed up to participate in a golf tournament » . The woman had made her husband understand what she didn't like - that she spent so much time at work - but instead she hadn't told him what she wanted. When we encouraged her to rephrase her request in another way, she was thoughtful for a moment and then said, "I wish I...
